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Most of us love the way we love, full stop. We rarely wonder if the way we express it actually is experienced as intended, that is, whether it actually works for our partner or not...
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I was brought up to believe that other people's needs and desires always came first, especially when they conflicted with mine. As a result of this, two things happened...
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We invest a lot of emotional energy in our relationships. One minute we think we're doing well, the next it's like someone switched off the light or pulled the rug from under our feet - and we never knew what hit us...
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I was brought up to always be friendly, agreeable, charming and cheerful. My parents believed that my very survival depended on people liking me and this was, clearly, the way one gets people to like them...
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Over the last few years I have become aware of the importance of timing. This aspect of timing has to do with things I want to happen, now, this minute but that don't - no matter how much I fret and struggle and push and force...
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Over the years I learned that change is both an external as well as an internal process. That is true for change that is imposed externally as well as for change that we initiate ourselves...
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Every time I experienced significant loss - redundancy, the death of my Dad, the death of my marriage - I experienced each one of them very differently...
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We tend to believe that loving somebody is a straight-forward thing to do. It is not. It is intricately complex, bound up in all kinds of values and beliefs about how love should be expressed in different situations and with different people...
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The first time I heard the term non-love was about five years ago. The context, at the time, was limited to a particular person and to a particular situation. The situation was simple...
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Like me, you probably grew up believing that telling the truth is something we tell another person when in reality there is only one person we actually need to tell the truth to and that is - ourselves...
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I never really thought that affairs were a bit of harmless fun. Nevertheless, what drove me to embark on the two I had in my 37 year long relationship was a deep sense of loneliness...
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If you ever wondered why your life looks and feels the way it does (not good) then it might be worth your while to look at your beliefs and expectations...
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Many people tend to believe that being alone is the same as feeling lonely. It is not. Being alone can be a re-energising and fulfilling experience...
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Most people tend to believe that true confidence is something you have all the time. The other thing they often believe is that confidence is the same as having a positive self-image...
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