This is your inner dialogue at work. Your inner dialogue are your thoughts that start from the moment you wake up until the moment you fall asleep.
What's so special about your inner dialogue is that it actually determines not only how you experience your life and your relationships but also how you feel about yourself and, how you feel about yourself shapes your relationships with everybody else.
Your thoughts have the power to enrage you, to cause you to doubt yourself, to blame others, to scare yourself into paralysis and much more. But your thoughts can also take you to a place of peace, contentment, joy, gratitude and acceptance of yourself and others.
This is because your thoughts affect your feelings and your feelings affect everything you say and do. In turn, this affects how people perceive, react and respond to you.
If you wonder how it is possible that our thoughts can have such power over the quality of our life then consider this.
Dr. Masaru Emoto, the world renowned Japanese researcher, visually captured the structure of water at the moment of freezing. He was able to show that water exposed to loving words shows brilliant, complex and colourful snowflake patterns while water exposed to negative thoughts shows incomplete and distorted patterns with dull colours. To see these pictures click here to go to You Tube and key in 'Positive and Negative Energy Effects on Water Crystals'.
Now take this one step further and consider that about 70% of the human body consists of water. Can you see the connection between an inner dialogue that is patient, gentle, non-judgmental and caring and one that is impatient, critical and judgmental?
How we talk to ourselves about ourselves and others both in terms of the words we use as well as the tone has a huge impact on our health and wellbeing - physical, emotional and spiritual.
Usually, our critical inner dialogue is habitual, that is, we hardly notice what we're thinking so the first step towards healing our inner dialogue is to make our thoughts conscious.
You might well ask yourself, "How do I stop beating myself up?" The best way to do that is by starting a journal to record - what?
Thoughts flit through our mind so quickly they can be difficult to grab hold of. But thoughts affect our feelings and our feelings can be recognized through physical sensations, for example, a headache or nausea may be due to stress, a tight jaw or clenched teeth may be a sign of anger, damp palms may be due to fear or nerves, light nauseous feelings may also be anxiety, and so on.
Any feeling of discomfort in your body may be a clue to a negative thought so look at your body as an ally in learning more about yourself.
Once you become more aware of your inner dialogue then you have the power to cut across a negative thought and replace it with a positive one. You might, for example, catch a thought that "there's no point in trying. I'll only mess it up" and replace it with something like "If I do it and it doesn't work I can try something else."
Negative thoughts that lead to negative feelings colour the way you see the world around you and can affect your physical and emotional health. By contrast, positive thoughts lead to inner peace, contentment, gratitude and many other positive emotions. These emotional states will cause you to attract like-hearted and like-minded people and circumstances.
Changing your thinking may take time but the results are more than you can possibly imagine.
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